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You're a single, professional woman, and you'd like to find a long-term partner. On the surface, you'd think that finding a mutually rewarding and healthy relationship would be easy, but 36 and single man all know it is not, and here's why: The pool in which you're fishing is shallow and poorly stocked, my friends.

We're looking for top quality fishing, and all we find are throwbacks There 36 and single man ways to locate a person who's a healthy fit - it takes time, patience, being deliberate and mindful in the process. What a great guy is was defined by the cave woman millions of years ago. The most prized man in those days was strong and healthy, faithful, had a cave in a safe neighborhood, could protect her if needed and was great at hunting and gathering.

Cave woman wanted to be safe, have healthy children and plenty to eat. She wanted to survive. Things haven't changed much, except for now we also throw love 36 and single man personality into the equation. Today's great guy is someone who is confident, kind, intelligent, consistent, "36 and single man," secure, honest, healthy, smart, fun, funny, emotionally available, able to make you a priority, interested in life, and a hard-working provider.

These guys, by my estimate, are less than 5 percent of the available male population. 36 and single man did I get that number? Personal and professional experience, and uh, statistics The others are throwbacks by professional woman standards. They may be good people, but they aren't good partners. Throwbacks haven't honed their brain - literally - they haven't maximized their human potential. Perhaps they've taken the easy path in life, haven't applied themselves, feel a bit entitled, maybe even stunted their 36 and single man potential with chemicals or not continuing their education No need to take this personally or send hate mail, that would prove my point.

Simply begin developing yourself so you can reach your relational potential. It's about time, don't you think? Don't fret over not being able to grab this one, despite his age, this person, who physically looks like a man, is still a boy, and chances are he has a secret that only the liquor store knows for sure. Hangs with a bunch of guys who fall into 2 listed 36 and single man or are terrible husbands. Brags about how his children will always come first, and he's an empty-nester.

See explanation in 1 listed above. They're well meaning, but terribly misguided. You're not sure what he does for a living. Sometimes he's working, sometimes not, but whatever 36 and single man is he does, there's no name for it, when he talks about it you don't understand it, and no one has ever seen him do it.

36 and single man wistfully talks about the good old days when he used to be successful. When times were good, he bought his women expensive jewelry and cars like they were a penny a pound, he traveled the world and had his picture taken with Mother Teresa and Nelson Mandela and they asked for his advice. But today, all he can give you is a toothpick after you pay for dinner.

Don't worry, he says, the good days shall return 36 and single man ignores a short skirt, pretty leg, ample booty or boobs size B cup and above. Misunderstands or doesn't understand most of what you say. Sorry, 36 and single man there are a ton of men out there who look and dress well but just don't have many kilowatts upstairs.

If you say, "I am looking for a man who is capable of emotional intimacy," and his defense is, "I am very emotional," run! Smokes pot, uses drugs.

If the man is 35...

Those of us who are still alive and lively appreciate men who are present, motivated, energized, and healthy. Pot suspends your ability to tune into other people. Need I say more? If you don't like what you're doing, make a plan to do something else, then do it. Stagnation is a turn-off, and the top 5 percent wouldn't dream of it. Doesn't monitor his health. He's sick and a tooth is loose but he won't go to the doctor or the dentist.

Girls, if he doesn't get check ups, doesn't floss, and avoids doctors 36 and single man be dating a ticking time bomb 36 and single man no teeth, and worse, he's the type who won't get Viagra or Cialis when the day comes. Unemployed trust fund kid. These guys have the bucks, but are as boring as freeze-dried hamburger and have the maturity of a year-old. You're together and he never or barely asks you 36 and single man about you - good Lord the minutes will tick by slowly with this one - and if not you, what is he interested in, anyway?

Wants final say over what you think, feel, believe, do and where you go? A mutual decision for him to stay home with the kids is OK, but there's no bigger turn-off than a man who is unwilling to be a provider.

Living my whole adult life...

Although that's a long list, unfortunately it is not a complete list. I'm sure you will help me to 36 and single man of some more. But the good news is that although 95 percent of men are like the ones listed above, we still have that allusive 5 percent we can choose from. Most are in relationships, because they are commitment-oriented, but sometimes women stupidly kick them out, and occasionally, as horrible as it is, their partners pass away.

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Your job is to be patient, ready and aware so you will recognize a jewel when he shows up. News Politics 36 and single man Communities. Opinion HuffPost Personal Videos. This one is for the single women of the world - one for men will follow First, what is a great guy, and what is a throwback?

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On the surface, you'd think that finding a mutually rewarding. If single and something men. I'm sorry, but I, as a single year-old woman who has seen nearly every promising new relationship. If 36 and single man man is 35 and not married yet there is something wrong with him.

So, I saidmom.I am 36 and not married yet. What is wrong with me?

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